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The family is that brick which forms the foundation of a society. It is composed of individuals that have permanent relations established between them. Most importantly, it possesses almost a majority of the different kinds of personal relations. Because of this, there must be certain etiquettes placed in order to control and regulate these relations. his is such that it can be maintained in the best possible manner, and so that it can generate and produce its proper fruits. Family relations consist of the relationship between the spouses from one perspective, the relationship between the parents and the children from a second perspective, and the relationship between the children themselves from a third perspective.
Is Polygany Permissible?
Yes! Islam regulated matrimony in that men are permitted to marry up to four wives provided they teat them fairly and equally. The man must first be financially capable to take another wife, prodive different residences and be able to divide his time equally amongst them. In the western society many men who are married to only one wife usually have extramarital affairs. Thus a survey was published in the USA Today (April 4, 1988; Section D) which asked 4700 mistresses, what would they like their status to be (mistress or second wife). They said "I prefer being a second wife rather than the other woman". The reasons for this are that they didn't have any legal rights, nor did they have the financial equality of the legally married wives and it appeared that these men were using them. Islam is clearly against extra or premarital affairs (fornication) as this leads to corruption in the society and the spread of sexually transmitted diseases, Don't pople feel bad when they have children out of wedlock? These children have the right to grow up knowing that they have parents who are responsible enough to have planned to bring them into the world. No one would like to be told that they were an accident. As for those against polygny, statistics show that because of wars there are more women in the world than there are men. Other reasons are, most married men engage in extramarital affairs and there is an increase in homosecuality amongst men, thus causing an excess amount of women to men. The Islamic solution of polygyny is the best solution to the seemingly difficult problems that plague our society in our man to woman relationships.
Narrated Asma: Some lady said, "O Allah's Apostly! My husband has another wife, so is it sinful of me to claim that he has given me what he has not given me (in order to tease her)?" Allah's Apostle (sallahu alayhi wa sallam) said, "The one who pretends that he has been given what he has not been given, is just like the (false) one who wears two garments of falsehood." Bukhari Volume 7, Book 63, Number 146
Is plurality of wives permitted in Islam, or is it prescribed as a Sunnah?
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